should I be mad..it was 4 years ago?

Ive been married for a year. We've been together for 7. Last month I found out that he cheated on me 4 years ago. I wasnt sure how to react. I always swore that if he did it was over. but now that its been so long.I just dont know. to make matters worse, I just found out that I have HPV, (an STD) so now I got mad all over again. what would you do?

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I can so relate! I was cheated on 5 years ago and caught HPV too. I was in stage three before I even knew I had it.

First of all. If the past 4 years have been good, then move on, forgive him and hope it never happens again. I left my husband, but move back 1 month later and we have been happy ever since. I know it hurts, but men are human and make huge mistakes too. It's going to hurt for a long time, but the pain will eventually go away. You should sit down and talk about this and try not to let resentment get the best of you. My husband and I had to seek counseling, but we are surviving it.

Good luck to you sweetheart!

how do u know hes not cheating on u now. i say divorce.
It sounds like there is more to the story then you are leading on. You want all these yahoo's to tell you to be mad at him so you have a reason too. No one can make that descission but you. You want permission to leave.

The STD..how come you are putting him in the front running for being the jerk.. What did you do to get should be the question?
Well, just think: there was a reason he cheated on you. but that was then and this is now. if he loved you enough to marry you, dont worry about it. but if he is making you mad about all these things and you seriously think it wont change, i would probably consider divorce. but think about this; what does he do in your life to make you happy?

hope this helped!
-jessica
i think he should get tested so you know if you got it from him. i would be mad if he cheated but that was four years ago..then again, was it four years ago and not last night?
Have you considered sitting down and talking to him about it? Ask him to be truthful with you about when he cheated on you. If he isn't, let him know you know it's true. Whether married or not, cheating is still cheating. You need to make sure he is willing to take a test to see if he has the std also. If he does, then you both need to decide what you're going to do. If not, then you both need to decide what this means for your future. I understand not being able to trust him, but if he is truly sorry and is willing to communicate and work through this, then it's worth a shot. If he's not willing to communicate and has a who cares attitude, you may want to consider what your options are as far as a future with him. I hope that kids aren't in the picture yet.
i say divorce. he cheated once.what makes you sure he isnt still and plus you got std.SO I THINK he still is.so dump the cheater!
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