how can u tell if a fetish is sick or just plain strange? I have this fantasy of making love to a paraplegic?

ok, i know,.. it is strange. It is my secret fetish/fantasy. my dad disliked those with disabilities,and told me never to hook up with one, so i never did. I had a crush on a guy in a wheelchair that my best friend hooked me up with. He would go into the hospital for back surgery and i would visit him,talk to him,while I did my homework. And kiss!! yes he could!! When my dad found out I was seeing him,once a year,for three years,he put a stop to it,right quick. I have never slept with a para or a quad, nor do i know any so i have no idea how that would work. Is it a fetish or am i just sick? I am really curious about it,and would like to know. serious answers only,please. i know of men who have a foot fetish/womens undies fetish,and have seen on tv some horse play fetishes,cannibal fetishes,s &m,slavery /bondage, ect. But I have never met anyone who has my fetish, or understands it.

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No, it's not sick. I actually think it just shows what a compassionate person you are. Not to many people would be willing to be with a person like that, and the fact that you would is quite beautiful. You are taking your feelings for one person, an unrequited love, and you've created an ideal of all people with similar characterisics.
I have a fantasy of laying down a skinny, nerdy, shy poet, because the first guy I ever fell in love with was like that, and he was under a vow of chastity. So I never got to be with him. You're normal, honey.

I don't know if it is a fetish or what. But if you wanted to have sex with a paraplegic, it would be boring for you. He would only be able to lie there. What fun is it if you have to do all the work. Also, ask yourself this, would he be able to feel anything?
It is definitely not sick in any way, as you want to make love to a human being.

It would be interesting, just for yourself, to think about what the benefits of a paraplegic are for you, compared to a 'normal' person. Then maybe if you do not end up with a paraplegic partner, you can still find a way to incoprporate what you want into your sexual life.
You're not sick.

And this is why I think so:

Maybe you're so attracted to it because your dad was always so against it. Perhaps you developed a curiosity for something you know you can't have (because of your father).
Although it's an unusual fetish, it is not sick. I've heard of other people who have fantasized about paraplegics. As far as I'm concerned, a fetish is alright as long as it doesn't involve children, animals, dead people, or rape.
a fetish cannot be considered strange, because by definition, iot already is. anything outside of normal textbook sex can be considered a fetish, so you cant really call it too strange. everyone is turned on by different things, and as long as its legal (unlike pedophiles) then your good to go.

i personally wouldnt consider it sick, and as long as you have the means to do it( know a paraplegic or quad) have fun. dont care what other people think and do what makes you happy. youll be alot happier in life that way
It's only sick or strange to you - nobody else's opinion matters since it's YOUR fetish. If it makes you sick, it is sick. If it doesn't, it's just strange!
If it is a fetish it sure sounds a LOT more normal than some of the others! I think maybe it's normal since your dad refused to allow the normal development of a relationship you seemed to have enjoyed! By the way doing all the work is Never boring!
It seems obvious that this fantasy is from a subconscious desire to rebel against your dad's instruction to never hook up with someone who is physically disabled. What better way to rebel against your dad than to have sex with someone disabled.

I am absolutely serious about what I just said. I use to work as a R.N. on psych units for years. Now I am only partially serious. If you ever want to fulfill your fantasy, I am not a paraplegic or a quad but I am 100% disabled with some serious physical problems. Leave a message on my 360 if you are interested.
I'm curious on how you would enjoy it if he couldn't get erect. Unless he's well hung, it might slip out. Your dad is wrong for disliking him. I don't care if a woman is black, white, yellow or red.they're all beautiful. Good luck.
Totally agreeing to all above that it's not strange. I can even see why, as he'd be submitted to your will, right?
I'd say: go find that guy you already kissed! I understand you were seeing him for three years, so you must have liked him, right? Of course, don't go over and say 'hey let's have sex' but do some dating first, and maybe that'll lead to something more. Do find out if he wants it too, not just jump him. Good luck!
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