Can any one suggest what i should do ??

A family member of mine who i was extremly close to died 2 years ago. I dont think i was able to accept the fact that they had died and recently i have been having terrible nightmares and these have been making me feel really down. I feel like my life it completey crap and my mind is not right for creating these nighmares. Can anyone suggest something that could help me out ??

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Dear Chaz

I know what you are going through because about 3 year ago i lost my nan and it was a dreadful experience. What you need to do is go to your G.P and asked to be refer-ed to a counsellor and they will help you though this. I have had counselling and it has helped me. As for the nightmares you could explain this to your G.P. and see what they say

YogiYarmouth

yep. therapy.
i think you will have to come to terms with this and let it out, the nightmares should stop after.
Probably not many pychologists on Yahoo at 4 in the morning, I would get in contact with a lisensensed doctor.
You need to visit your doctor and be very honest with him or her. They will be able to refer you to somewhere you can get proper help in coping with your feelings, come to terms with what has happened and able to move forward.

You are grieving and probably depressed.
Talking about it to someone you can trust would be a start. Nightmares can be a sign of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, so I would suggest seeing a psychiatrist to help diagnose you if there is something like that going on. Other than that, grief is a long process. There are classes that specialize in losing people close to you. Usually available through your healthcare if you have it. If not general hospitals do offer things similar. Its just about finding the right people you can trust to talk to. I'm sorry to hear of your loss, and I wish you hope, health, and help.
drink two glasses of water before sleeping.& consult a phycatrist
i kinda of agree with the other answer you need too talk with a therapist or if you cant afford one maybe someone in a religious capacity who Can at least lend you an ear for you too talk too.
my suggestion personally would be too try to remember the good things that this person did and what he meant to you as family.
as for your nightmares , i don't really know other than too say that is what they are just nightmares and try not too dwell on them.
i hope you find the answers you are looking for, my sincerest condolences for you and your family.
best wishes for you !!
You should go and see your GP and ask to be referred to a counsellor - they should be able to help you work out your problems and see the situation in a 'rational' light. You're obviously still grieving and you need to recognise this and come to terms with it. You may also be mildly depressed. Good luck.
Sorry for your loss. Often times we convince ourselves that we are "alright" all the while going about our business after a family loss. But, the truth is, we need to let ourselves move through all of the feelings that associate with our family member's departure.I have had this happen, a delayed response that outpictures through dreams and depression. Talk to a professional whom you feel will help you grieve your loss through. The following two links may help you -- sometimes when we read about the signs and symptoms, everything will fall into place. All the best.
Sounds like some kind of depression, in my NON-PROFESSIONAL opinion. I think it would be good to look for some professional help - you can be surprised at how small things you never thought of can help.

For a quick remedy. read Pollyanna. I loved that book, it saved me from the onset of a depression. Before that, I was depressed for some time and didn't think of getting help - I truged through and came back up, but I think there could be easier ways.

Also, try helping other people. It's cliche, I think, but it still helps. Knowing that you've done something good for somebody else feels very good - it helps the feeling that one's life is crappy, at least. By comparing it with the life of another person you can help.

Another thought that held me through some bad times was that when I look back at my problems 5 or 10 years from now, I will think them ridiculous, just as when I look now at earlier problems they just fail to move me.

Good luck, I hope you get a way to recover quickly. It's no fun without help, but people have survived depression, keep your hope up. Btw, I also had nightmares, when I was depressed.
you are going thru a grieving process although people vary on how long they grieve for a person it sounds like you are truely having trouble coming to terms with it you need to go talk with a minister/priest or a counselor and let the sorrow and pain you are feeling out so you can start healing i'm sure if your family member was here he/she would tell you the same thing. god bless
Forget is the keyword i know it is difficult for you to forget but try..think of your own life your friends...you can travel to a calm place and relax there for sometime , i don't suggest therapy at all because you don't need it........... try to forget by anything or anyone you like
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maybe try some self help books, meditation to clear your mind and try to accept the things you cannot change. try to do things that you love or just make you feel good. and if you believe in the power of prayer try that to.
hi there!
the best that you can do is to ACCEPT it.. tough i think that's one of the difficult thing to do..

i do lost my father when i was just 17 yrs old am now 19.. i couldn't do anything.

the only ! thing i did was to ACCEPT it..

we should understand that--that's the cycle of life.

life must go on.

:-)
Your GP should refer you to a therapist ! There are waiting - lists
but make your case urgent to get seen faster ! Maybe you can go private . You need to tackle that problem, maybe talking about the death with another family member who has known the person in the meantime .
Good luck !
You must have consultation with psychologist. Then you need more physical activity such as sport, travelling, manual labour.You must to seek new friends, impression and etc.
try to be positive about it. think of it this way, your family member is gone but that doesnt mean you cant make their memory live on. Make your life the best it can be so when they look down on you and see how youve made your life the best it can be, they can be proud.
whoever you lost is happy now with eternal peace, no more pain, no more worries.
im sure you miss them terribly but they wouldnt want you to bring your life down. they would want you to be happy.
please consider this.
i hope you find peace.
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Hello there why not try a trip to the Dr and tell him how you are feeling,grief is sometimes very hard to come to terms with,especially when they were so close to you,there some councilors for those that have been bereaved by someone they loved,try looking in the yellow pages or just ask your Dr as i'am sure he or she will be of great help to you,your life is not crap you are just depressed,and that can be treated,i wish you good luck
Think of the good times that your family member was involved in. Forget any of the bad things. Think of the advice that that person may have ever given you, especially if you've had a rough patch before and if they gave you any advice related to how you feel. Nightmares for me are usually linked to my day to day stresses, as well as any issues I might have. I think what you should do is if and when you have some spare money and time is go away to somewhere you've always wanted to visit, like say you live in England but you've never been to London. Learn how to play piano, anything that you may have thought about as acheivable but you haven't gotten around to it. I reckon that could help. It's just line of thought for you. Good Luck
go to a professional and talk it out
see a Dr I know they can help. Good Luck
You should go and see your doc, tell them whats been going on and ask for a referal to a grief counsellor or similar, no one can really diagnose you properly otherwise. It is hard when you lose some one close to you and nobody except you can understand fully the feelings of loss that you have because everyone is different. Go see the doc and get referred hons. You also need to take time out for yourself and remember the good things that this person did for you and with you and remember them with fondness and a smile in your heart...
i lost my sister 2yrs ago, she was 34. i was gutted because she never abused herself, with drink, drugs etc..,like i do,(smoke to much drink to much, eat to much, off the drugs, (speed, scank..crap anyway, when i was younger, as a lot of people have tried.)
anyway, about 6 day after she died, a friend of my lost his son, who was 14yrs old.
I was gutted about my sister, cannot imagine how he felt about his son, thats got to be 10 million times worse, hasnt it!
doesnt matter what happens, life goes on. one day i will die, but i am going to enjoy every day untill it happens.
You need bereavement counselling.Try talking to your GP and see if there is any free in your area.
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