Can anyone help. My life is a disaster. I suffer from depression and feel totally hopeless, sad, lonely.?

My life is presently very depressing. I have no friends, family, support of any kind. Currently unemployed, single, I barely go out in public. The only person in my life is my 73 year old mom, who is getting depressed herself. If I go out, its only to visit her on my bicycle (grown man riding on a bike). She just nags, puts me down and is unhappy. She has maybe one or two friends herself, no man. My life is just based on enduring. Is this what life's about?
I don't even have the energy anymore. I could go on, but I think you get the picture. Signed hopelessly lost.

Answers:
Please get help. Check http://www.dbsalliance.org/ and see if you can find a support group.

If you can, check with your doctor and see what other options might be available to you. For some, therapy alone works. Others need medication to get better. I went through a severe bout of depression that got gradually worse over a four-year period. I tried therapists, exercise, vitamins, group activities, etc., because I didn't want the stigma of taking medication, but finally broke down and tried a mood stabilizer. Within a month, I felt better.

You are a good person to visit your mom even though she isn't strong enough to provide you with any emotional support. Just so you know, I think it is GOOD that you ride a bike. You aren't contributing to global warming, and the exercise and going out is good for you, even though it probably doesn't feel like it right now.

Good luck with everything. Things will get better.

You need to get out of the house. Make some friends, if that's too hard (social anxiety, etc.) Try to find a hobby. Wake up early and go for a long walk/jog. It'll make you feel better and you'll be exercising, which is healthy. There are also many available websites to help you meet people. Listen to REM's "Everybody Hurts". It's a great song. Life's too short to be unhappy. Good Luck.
Chill out dude, we all go through ups and downs.
Let me tell you my story.
I got married in aug 05, and i bought our fixer upper house at the time..a house that needs lots and lots of work.
The biatch left me in november 05.
The cops came because she said i beat her up in jan 06.
I had to pay for a divorce which was finalized in april 06..
I also paid 100% for the wedding she wanted.
When my 1995 chevy station wagon with 163,000 miles broke down on the freeway in feb in the dead of winter, i pulled over on the freeway (with my car overheating) I was so frustrated that I started to walk into the flow of traffic...I was't looking at the traffic, and just as i stepped into the first lane of traffic, a cop car stopped right in front of me and asked if everything was ok..

Who put that car there at that time? Was it a coincidence that i didnt keep walking?

I, like you, come home to an empty house every day, and I often wonder if this is all there is to my life, if i shall wake up alone the rest of my life.i dont know dude, but celebrate each baby step as you learn to walk.

Things really arent any better, but i feel a lot more hopeful, look for the tiny elements of beauty and grace in your everyday life.

even if you never marry, if you don't become a rich man, celebrate that you can enjoy the sun on your head, the chirp of the birds, the coolness of the rain, and all the other little things.
If you think someting is a problem, then there must be a solution to it. Look, just take things as tasks and you must participate in them to solve them with full throttle. if you alienate yourself from these issues and stand aside . they look like unsolved mysteries or unsurmountable problems.

Impossible is nothing . only you should understand and get them off your road. Sometimes these issues may be too stubborn, then it is only a phase of life that they trouble you but not for ever . dont loose heart dear ! once this phase passes . life will be as good as ever again . but you must make it good. go for it .. coz you deserve it!

Dont look at your problems as a bundle . break them into single issues and you will easily resolve them and you will be happy again. your depressions and your mother's will all be gone . you will love to live again.

Loneliness is just your feeling . look around and there are several things that you like and many people to work with . and if you can take this idea of mine . Solitude is a gift ! More people around you .. the more problems. You will feel strong only when you are alone coz it is you who has to get your issues cleared . get tough and get going . it is for weaklings that a shoulder is reqiured to lean on . I think you are strong enough to get going . Keep moving dear !
Please visit your doctor and tell him exactly how you feel, antidepressant drugs can help in the short term. Take your self away from situations which depress you further (i.e.your mother) although she may only be sad because you are, it will not help you. Tomorrow when you go out on your bike make yourself a picnic, ride further than you would normally do, then eat your sandwich and look at whats surrounding you and think how lucky you are to be there.
Read this webpage to help yourself. Last 2 sentences refer to another page for more help.

http://phifoundation.org/happiness.html
I feel for you! And I can try to understand what it's like to be in your shoes. But you are the only one that really knows what life is like or has been like for you. I think it can change..but it is up to you.

One thing that comes to mind.
is that you need to be strong enough to see your mom, if you are that strong... you are definitly strong enough to help yourself.

I think you are on the road to recovery. But you may need to bypass her house on some days.. and when you are strong enough to go there, tell her to treat you nicely and fairly or she'll need to abuse someone else. You are not there for her to abuse you. If she doesn't appreciate you, I feel sorry for her.

For the long haul, you need to care for yourself so you can be strong enough to help her too, because she means so much to you. A man doesn't have to have a lot in order to be happy... he just needs to find out what works for him. Find a mission in your area, or a church that has a reputation for 'really' helping people (word of mouth) and go for help. Seek it at all costs!

I would love to hear about how you work things out. So, please keep us posted.
First: Go job hunting! You can go the unemployment office and they can help you find a job even it it's McDonald's (it's a job). Once you get a job you can begin socializing.

Second: Once you save up some money after about 6 months get you a car so you don't have to ride your bicycle anymore. If you get two jobs then you can save money faster!! Make sure the car is very reliable. No lemons!

Third: Save up some more money and get an apartment. You need your own space away from your mother. I hate to say she is bringing you down. You must venture out on your own regardless of what she says or thinks.

I hope this helps. I never been in this situation and I know it's probably easier said than done, but we only live once and we need to live our lives to the fullest. You have to do what's best for you sometime.
Well first of all Lick my nuts,,,(kinda hard to take seriously but..) try doing some exercise, it has some of the same benefits as an anti-depressants. Also maybe u can get into therapy and see a shrink.
and you are not alone, if that helps i dont know.
you obviously have a computer, so visit chatrooms,try online dating and when you get a job,you can try making friends from work. distance yourself from your mother a little and visit her for a couple of times a week to have more of your own life. good luck!
Management depends on how severe depression is. Mild to moderate depression may respond to psychotherapy (talking therapy)

Depression prevalence rate is around 2- 5 % and lifetime rates 10-20%.

In the management of depression, education (to learn more about depression) is very important. Visit following site to read more about symptoms, risk factors, management of depression
http://www.thegoodfriday.co.uk/depression.htm
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