self confidence?
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Crises of self-esteem are a part of the human experience. When you feel troubled by low self-esteem, review the suggestions below and choose those that are relevant to your situation and work on them. Be patient with yourself: change takes time and steadfast work.
1.Free yourself from “should’s”. Live your life on the basis of what is possible for you and what feels right to you instead of what you or others think you “should” do. “Should’s” distract us from identifying and fulfilling our own needs, abilities, interests and personal goals. Find out what you want and what you are good at, value those, and take actions designed to fulfill your potential.
2.Respect your own needs. Recognize and take care of your own needs and wants first. Identify what really fulfills you- not just immediate gratifications. Respecting your deeper needs will increase your sense of worth and well-being.
3.Set achievable goals. Establish goals on the basis of what you can realistically achieve, and then work step-by-step to develop your potential. To strive always for perfectionistic absolute goals (e.g., “Anything less than an ‘A’ in school is always unacceptable”) invites stress and failure.
4.Talk to yourself positively. Stop listening to your “cruel inner critic”. When you notice that you are doubting or judging yourself, replace such thoughts with self-accepting thoughts, balanced self-assessment and self-supportive direction.
5.Test your reality. Separate your emotional reactions, your fears and negative feelings, from the reality of your current situation. For example, you may feel stupid, anxious and hopeless about a project, but if you think about it, you may still have the ability and opportunity to accomplish something on it.
6.Experience success. Seek out and put yourself in situations in which the probability of success is high. Look for projects which stretch, but don’t overwhelm, your abilities. Imagine yourself succeeding. Whatever you accomplish, let yourself acknowledge and experience success and good feelings about it.
7.Take chances. New experiences are learning experiences which can build self-confidence. Expect to make mistakes as part of the process; don’t be disappointed if you don’t do it perfectly. Feel good about trying something new, making progress and increasing your competence.
8.Solve problems. Don’t avoid problems, and don’t worry about them. Face them, and identify ways to solve them or cope with them. If you run away from problems you can solve, you threaten your self-confidence.
9.Make decisions. Practice making and implementing positive decisions flexibly but firmly, and trust yourself to deal with the consequences. When you assert yourself, you enhance your sense of yourself, learn more and increase your self-confidence.
10.Develop your skills. Know what you can and can’t do. Assess the skills you need, learn and practice those.
11.Emphasize your strengths. Focus on what you can do rather than what you cannot. Accept current limitations and live comfortably within them, even as you consider what strengths you might want or need to develop next.
12.Rely on your own opinion of yourself. Entertain feedback from others, but don’t rely on their opinions excessively. Depend on your own values in making decisions and deciding how you feel about yourself and what is right for you to do.
I believe self confidence comes from within only and is all in your head. If you want to believe you are a beautiful, smart, happy and healthy person, then you will be. The mind is a powerful thing and that is where all of your insecurities will come from as well. I think looking at the media or comparing yourself to others is the quickest way to lose self confidence and the sooner you accept that God made you this way because he loves you this way or at least accept that you're different for a reason and there is no such thing as perfection, the better life you will live.
oh sweetie, i know it's hard, cuz i struggle with it everyday. i see all these wonderful things i have and all these glorious opportunities that i have, and i wonder, do i deserve any of this at all? am i worthy of everything i have? confidence can be achieved through having positive friendships and a full life, and for me, i feel happiest when i am doing something good for other people and when i achieve something big in my eyes. but it takes lots of work, and hosts of people in this world don't have nearly enough self confidence in themselves. it all depends on what you believe about yourself. am i a good person, do i deserve what i have, do i deserve my friends? and the answer, most likely, unless you're paris hilton or something, is yes, you do.
anyway, that's my feeling about this whole thing. email me if want to talk. it's in my profile.
*sigh* i'm not very confident and tend to be pessimistic sometimes. but i'm trying to build a more positive attitude. a lot of people have the same problem. just step into the situation with a bit of confidence and self-esteem. you'll be fine.
I was helped when i strengthned my believe in God. It was a miracle.. I thought I could not have done it. It doesnt make arrogent or
full of yourself it makes give you positive energy and that will take further then anything you could possible imagine
Making confident choices will make you a confident person.
It's never too late to change. Simply by looking at and paying attention to the choices you make will lead you to greater self confidence.
Another way to increase your confidence is to work with the four components that make up your self confidence.
Trust is one component of self confidence.
Like esteem, a big part of confidence is trusting yourself, knowing you can cope with whatever life throws at you. To have confidence, you must learn to trust yourself.
Courage is another component of self confidence.
Courage is not being fearless. Courage is admitting your fears. It's stupid to deny your fears - that's the way of the coward.
Confident people are aware of their fears. Confident people admit their fears and act in spite of them. Cowards deny their fears and don't act because of the very fears they deny.
It takes courage to admit your fears, and even more courage to stand up to those fears.
'Letting things be different' is a component of self confidence.
Confidence is also knowing that whatever happened in the past, it can all be different now. Just because you failed before doesn't mean you will fail this time.
It takes very little confidence to relive the past. It takes more confidence to create a bright future where none existed before.
It takes confidence, and it builds confidence, to let things be different now, especially when the past was not the way you wanted it.
The fourth component of self confidence is hope.
Hope is a combination of expectation and anticipation. Expectation is what you honestly expect to happen - not what you want to happen or wish would happen.
Anticipation is what you plan on doing as a reaction or response to what you expect. Hope is a very real and very essential part of self confidence.
The intrinsic value of confidence is that it's like a shield to protect you from the ravages of life.
as for coping with it..working hard for it
One place where i lack major confidence is PUBLIC SPEAKING I HATE IT!!thats where my confidence is put to the test. I get real nervous!! I'm serious, one class i left the room and ran to the bathroom locked myself up in a stall and cried. That was 3 years ago. today im still struggling with it, but not as much diffcuty with it that before. Practice wont make me perfect but it makes me become more confidence each time i present
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