Health (mental as well) of my brother?

I'm 33 married woman. I have a question about complex situation of my younger brother (27). He was a nice, jolly, handsome sportsman and very caring and loving too all. I had always great understanding with him and on my husband's request he lives with us as he himself has to be on buisness tours frequently. I was not much worried finding out my brother was into flirtious acts with number of gals but considered it a normal thing for guys. I start worrying when he start getting isolated and spending most of time in his room. Too boot, he suddenly announced he wont marry his fiance without giving any reason. finally I decided to talk to him and after a lot of hesitation he scummbed to pressure and admitted that he got addicted of self-pleasure while having immoral sexual thoughts in mind. He also confessed that he started it with suggession of a doctor and get addicted and now do it 3 or four time daily. Hes afraid he has nothing left in him to be married now. Please help me..

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With your additional information you summed up a lot. Your brother, like others before me have stated, needs to go see a therapist. There are things that are going on that he needs to talk about and work through. Incest is what is on his plate, in his case brother-sister.

He seems to be trying to handle it on his own by not bothering you and others by isolating himself from the outside world. He seems to see himself as sinful and having "immoral" thoughts.

I would say, from what you have said that it wouldn't take much to talk to him and get him to get some good professional help. It's not that scary. I promise. Tell him you still love him, you're still there from him, and you want to help him, support him, and just be there for him. You are his sister and you seem to care deeply for him.

I'd go more into where I received this info, but for now I'll just say my past history, not from your brother's standpoint, but more yours. I was the one that got the professional help though. I can speak for that. I do have a Significant other too, that is very loving and there for me too, and you don't know how much that does help.

Good luck! You seem to be doing well, keep going :)

i would say your brother has found his inner lust and has yet to find a woman he is comfortable enough with to share that side of him he is ashamed of it when in all honesty he should not be..if his fantsies involve violent sexual acts that is different and he does need help i just feel he feels embarrassed about what he does but he likes it too much to share it at the time being
self-pleasure meaning masturbation? I would think that getting it on with real girls would be much better than going solo? I think that there is something else behind your brother's actions. I mean, most sexually preoccupied males want to get in touch with women, unless your brother is a voyeur and wants to watch or observe more rathen than interact. I think he could benefit with a visit to a doctor who can advice him better. There may be issues that he hasn't told you why he would prefer a simulation of the act rather than the act itself.
The man needs mental counseling. Try to get him to a mental professional who can make him see things in their true perspective. He may be depressed as well. Withdrawal of this type suggests depression.
It is time to let the child go. As you can see clearly, the signs of Insanity show upon his attitude. He is no longer the man you knew, but instead, he is now slowly sinking away into the river of Insanity. You shouldn't stop him from wandering this cold and dark path. For it'll eventually lead him towards the Salvation he needs.

Yours Faithfully, D.
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