should i have to change myself?

iam in a very big prob.i live with my inlaws.both of them r old but not sick.i stay home to take care of them.v stay in a place where they cant interact even with the sales person.they dont know how to speak english or the local lang. here.my father in law(fil)made some sexual advances towards me and now the prob is solved.my mother in law(mil) supported his act or dint pay atten when i told her.so now iam not able to forgive them.both of them r not sorry for it anyways.i cant ask them to stay alone.they r financially dependent on us.my husband is a wonderful person he understands all my feeling.so this is the history now coming to the prob,now what ever my mil says i dont like it.if she says cook this tday i try to make something else.when she feels bad i feel good abt that.my fil doesnt talk to me at all.iam happy abt that.anything my mil says i always do the other thing.i know iam not being good to her.i feeling ashamed of myself.i dont know how to change pls help.thanku

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I tried my best to understand your writings, the words are so crowded (computer technical problem? others?). Anyways, and I also looked at the other questions that asked.

Those problems you have, (i read you other questions), it's just an tip of the ice ber, you to search the 'roots' and target it. It's hard to explain in here (AnyQA.com)

I really hope you can go get some help, some counselling. I am finding counselling very helpful. The 'AnyQA.com' is world wide. I am not sure where do you live. I hope you can tell me at least which city and which province, and country. So I can give you more specific information of where to get some help and find someone you can trust to talk to.

You can short message me (by clicking into my profile). And if once you click into my profile, yes, I did have mental problems, but I am taking positive and productive actions to take care of my mental health. I am not saying you have any mental health problem. And having mental health problem is just like any sickness, just like an 'emotional flu' etc. I do not wish your problem get worst and this is why I am here now, answering your questions.

Some information I can give you now.
If you live in .B.C, Canada.

http://www.vcn.bc.ca/bcg/

If you live in other regions of Canada, well, I think you can try to ask them (the above) of where near you can get counselling service.

If you live in USA, you can try to ask:

http://www.troubledwith.com/

and

http://www.minirthclinic.com/

Take care~~

you and hubby need to get a place of your own
You are angry with them so you are happy when they are sad, and vice versa. You feel trapped because this is not what you had planned for your life.

If you can't change your living situation then you need some help in dealing with your anger. Otherwise you will be miserable.

Can you talk to a doctor, a family therapist, or your minister?
I think you should talk to them about your feelings. I f they can't speak English, ask your husband to translate for you. You should really express what you feel rather than bearing it in your heart and torment yourself. If they understand you, that's good, if it doesn't work out, move.
2 wrongs don't make a right! What you do to others will come back to you full circle. Please ask the Lord to forgive you and ask for the strength to tolerate these elder people. I love my own parents will all of my heart but as they are in their 70's now, they have become angry at the world. It has nothing to do with me or any other family member, we just happen to be the ones around that get to hear all the crap. I feel sorry for them because they got old without realizing it and they're mad about it. My mom acts as if she is suppose to be beautiful till her death. She has come to not like what she sees when she looks in the mirror. I hope that I can live my life to the fullest so that I can grow old peacefully. Just remember, with integrity you have nothing to fear because you have nothing to hide. With fear and guilt removed, you have the freedom to be the person God created you to be. When you are honest and ethical and live with integrity, your rewards of happiness are guaranteed. It's time to stop your nonsense and grow up.
Are you happy in your marriage? If not, I would leave. I am not an advocate for diorce in any way, but I think the situation is ridiculus. You shouldn't have to live like this. Are your parents in law capable of work still? If so, they can get a job and afford their own place. If your FIL can make sexual advances, he has enough energy to work. FInd some place that speaks the language he does and get him a job there. Not speaking English doesn't keep people from working, trust me. Enroll them in an English course to learn, that or send them back to the old country!
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