Why is cutting yourself so addictive?!?
I suffer severe Depression, I just turned 17, female, and I have been a cutter for a while. Now I'm finally getting help, they made me sign a contract saying I wouldn't harm myself anymore! It is so incredibly hard! It is so tempting because I had become so addicted!! Any advice on other ways I can balance out the internal pain, or release my emotions? I seriously need help! Please and thankyou!
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Hey, why do you do this. Ask yourself that question. Depressed about what? Find why you want to do this. Then talk to your Family about this . Your not alone. You can start by LOVING
yourself. Your Beautiful, your a nice girl your smart . If you were near by even though I'm a stranger I would give you a big hug that you so deserve. Theres allways a better way. No need to be
depressed go have fun embrace life. Allways talk about what your feeling to Family. A BIG HUG TO YOU TONY
You already answered your question by finally getting help. Good luck!
Because it is a physical/concrete expression of the psychic/emotional pain you are so deeply feeling. Try exercise, like kick boxing or a martial art. Not only will it get your endorphin levels cranking, but it will empower you as an individual, and kick that depression right in the ***!
OMG!! What the hell is wrong with u?!?!?!?!? What kind of a freak cuts themselves?!?!?!? OK. Try 2 do something else 2 let out your anger like boxing and wrestling.
Are you interested in art? You could try expressing your pain through painting or drawing. It's cool that you're currently seeking help. Writing also helps. I went to a psychologist once who advised me to keep a mood chart (you can copy/paste them from the Internet. Some even have printer friendly versions, ready to print). You can get to know the patterns of your depression better that way.
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I feel for you. I went through a period of cutting when I was 15.
Since you are already getting the required help, stay busy, do things you enjoy, get a hobby, be around people, spruce your life up..get involved helping other people. Stay busy..so busy you will go to sleep at night and not be concerned with cutting yourself. Why do you do that? Are you punishing yourself for something? Depression is hard to whip, but you can do it. There are medicines that will help. If one doesn't work, tell the doctor it doesn't. Don't just keep taking it. There is numerous types of anti-depressants a doctor can prescribe. Maybe you and him can find the right one for you. Communicate with your doctor! Good luck and forget about the cutting. That just hurts and serves no purpose for you. Don't worry, be happy!! Pops
1. Do u have msn? if soo, everytime u want to cut, keep typing on keyboards soo it will make your hands busy.
2. hang out with people who are positve. Do something fun with friends. Then u might think positiv as well.
3. talk bout your problems to a familiy memeber u trust or someone important to you who can listen and give u advice. there are always solution
4. Try to put in your mind that around the world, there are people suffring more than u and their living can be more painful physically and emotionaly.
5. hurting yourself won't stop your depression soo just stop
Self-injury causes endorphins and dopamine to be released in the brain. We can say that "it is more simple and less expensive than buying heroin". The problem is that the effect is very short (and also dangerous)
Glad you're getting help! DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy) is often very helpful for BPD and cutting. (I am also including links below). I would highly recommed finding a good DBT program (where you can go several times/week for various groups) or at least a DBT group in addition to your therapy. It really helps!
i will say a prayer for you. continue getting help
Praise God I am thrilled that you are getting help!! Keep up the good work. I'm sure that it is a daily struggle, but I am quite sure that you can do this. Just think of it in this way. God gave you that body to have as long as you are on earth, your body is his creation..why would you want to harm it? I'm sure you are a beautiful young lady and now you need to believe that too. Don't give up. There are many trials in our lives, just stay strong and know that God is with you. Turn your pain over to Him and let Him guide you. You won't be sorry. Good Luck and may God Bless and Keep you. I will be praying for you.
I am also a cutter, and have found that going to a group program called: DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy), worked wonders for me. It is a year long committment on your part, but it works great for people with this disorder. Yes, I have relapsed a few times and no one has judged me for relapsing. However, you may judge yourself as being a failure because you had to cut again. DON'T!! It happens to the best of us. I cut to release my anger so I don't take it out on the person(s) that I should really take it out on, because I'm afraid of the reprocussions.
It can't hurt you to try this program, it's by Marsha Lynahan,PhD, and you can find many groups online, such as bordertown_dbt which can be found on yahoo groups under health and wellness. In that particular online group you would have to join that group which is FREE and learn to communicate with others that suffer the same as you.
I have the skills to DBT saved on my computer if you would like too see what it talks about, like being in WISEMIND, or DISTRESS TOLERANCE and knowing what too do to stay that way or how to handle certain situations when feeling the urge to cut. There are alot of coping skills in the manual. You can get it at any bookstore.
I hope that this helps you in finding the answers to why you cut, I have now been cut free for almost 6 weeks. It's very hard as time goes on, but I don't want to cut anymore!! I do, however, still get very strong urges to cut, but I found that if I find something to distract my mind from thinking about it, then I usually won't do it.
I am 50 years old, and started hurting myself at the age of 5, when my mother started to verbally abuse me. She was and is my anger.
I never heard of anyone having to sign a paper though that says YOU WILL NOT EVER CUT AGAIN, that's horse pucky, because you can't say that. You don't know if you will ever do it again. Atleast I can't say that because even though I don't want to do it anymore, I may do it again. I just never know.
My guess, you can breath a sigh of relief when that dripping blood sidetracts you from your deep emotional pain. I'm not sure you asked, but something you can do to get your emotional pain out fast and furious is to scream and yell and cry until you are exhausted and then have a nap. Or you can buy some discount mugs and go to the back of a brick store after hours, stand back and smash the hell outta those cups (against the wall). Swear your head off while you do that too. Own your anger and hurt.
Ever tried DBT? I know its not easy, I am 24 and ever since I was 11 I self harmed and still deal with the urges. No one can stop another person from harming themselves, it takes lots of therapy and alternative ways instead of SI'ng. Sometimes drawing how you feel can help the urge or write poetry.anything you are feeling for that urge to SI. Try a red marker or pen and make your skin up instead of actually acting on the cutting.
Hey hon, if you want to talk you let me know. I can try to be there for you as much as I can. Jesmaluc@aol.com
I paint ,draw,write when I am hurting like that I was never a cutter.. but I have major depression. Find soothing music..watch a movie,, excersize, crush soda cans, talk..
clean dust, juat keep yourself busy its funny how themind can stay occupied.
gods blessings to you.
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