overcoming jealousy?

im in a good relationship now but the biggist problem is my jealousy. when ever she talks about any of her old relationships or even a crush she once had i get so jealusy i get knots in my stomach and i feel sick and angry. i thought i had gotten over this a long time ago.

im worried that this will come as a wedge between us. yet i cant seem to control this jealousy. am i just a jealous person or is their something else that i can do. to over come this.

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Well it would depend on how often she talks about it. If she's constantly talking about it I would let her know that it bothersome to hear those things becuase it seems that there's something there that she's holding on to.

But if she's telling it to you once in a while..then I would think that there's no reason for you to get jealous. Sometimes if a girl were to tell you things like that.it means that she's comfortable enough to tell you about other men. That means she opening up to you and communicating to you, it's her way of telling things about herself.

I would closely look at her approach. Either she's trying to make you jealous or she's trying to open up to you.

you have to feel good about yourself and then maybe the jealousy will go away...
You need to have a conversation with her about how you feel. When you become more secure within yourself & the relationship, the jealousy should go away. If you feel you could get violent with her - Run - don't walk - to the nearest counselor!
Jealousy only hurts you!
If you are in a good relationship, tell her! Either she will try to tone down her discussions of the past or she is doing it because she knows it make you jealous. Some jealousy in a relationship is good, but if it makes you sick, there is more to it. Just remember, she is with "you" now. Do your best to make her feel secure in the relationship, and you should tell her how it makes you feel. Then also, she maybe just as jealous or more of you, but doesn't want to admit it and talks about her past to make herself feel better;
Jealousy is a form of insecurity and low self-esteem. Do you trust her? If so, you might want to look into a counselor, they can help you learn more appropriate behavior.
Well, you cant change the past, but your jealousy can change for the worse or the better. You know that since your in a good relationship you can trust her and she is with you because she chose to be. Not the others, they are no longer in her life now, just as other x-es are no longer in yours. Be happy with the present and forget the past that cant be changed. You will benefit your relationship and things will get better for you:)
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