If you have HPV should you forget about sex for life, and/or just kill yoursefl?

I recently found out I have HPV. I'm 28, and married, and feel guilty for unknowingly giving this to my wife. I've never been promiscuious. Only had sex with two girls before her. Me and those girls always got check ups from doctors who said we were healthy. We've used condoms. And I still have this disease, and gave to the one I love.

I feel like I basically should have never had sex, for life. Now I'm screwed and feel like life is pointless. Should I give up sex altogther now? I feel like I should just kill myself and be done with life. I did everything I thought was right to avoid sexual disease, only to find out I should have just ignored sex all together because thats the only protection. I should have ignored all the sexual tension that the media causes, and the natural desire for sex.

I feel bad about her health. I've failed miserably, so it seems I should just be done with life altogether. Has anyone else ever felt this way?

Your thoughts?

Answers:
First of all, if both you and your wife now carry the disease there is no reason not to have sex. The damage has already been done. People with medical knowledge can tell me if I'm wrong, but I don't think sex between two infected people is likely to worsen the situation.

Second of all, you didn't do anything wrong. It sounds like you acted in good faith in all your sexual encounters, by using condoms, going to the doctor, getting info from your sexual partners about their sexual health, etc. So while your guilt is understandable, it is unnecessary and not justified.

Third, you do realize that HPV isn't a particularly serious disease, right? And that it's very common? Why make such a big fuss about it. Perhaps your post is merely a plea for intention, its not like you gave her a mutant strain of HIV or the ebola virus. HPV is very very common, and frequently harmless. So what if she gets a couple warts, no reason to panic.

Last I heard, there was a newly developed vaccine for HPV. Ask around or do some research, you may be able to wait a few more years for a better treatment.
Uhhh u can just wear condoms and there is a vaccine so have fun. It's not ur fault u got it STDs r pretty easy to get w/o having sex so there's no need to give up. At least u don't have AIDS the worst HPV can do, since it sounds u like u don't got genital warts since u'd've known if u had HPV if u saw them, is maybe cause cervical cancer!
Listen, HPV is a very normal disease. Not great to have but not life threatening if precautions are taken. I just dont understand how if you all got tested frequently and were said to be healthy you didnt know you had this. Another thing doesnt sound like you and wife are together anymore? well if you are sex with eachother doesnt hurt i guess. but if not, just be aware of your disease and let others no. Good luck to you in the future. Genital warts are common now adays, ive been lucky enough to never come across them. condoms though are very effective against HPV so look at this as education not something to throw life away over,
Huh? A vaccine isn't going to help if you already have contracted it, people.

Well, the only reason you'd want to quit having sex would be to keep your partner from catching it. She has it. So why stop?
yes just do it hpv is bad i think even though i dont know what it is.
Well I heard there was a vaccine for HIV that failed so I personally wouldnt go that route. I would go celibate, hopefully along with my wife. I think that's what we're meant to do anyway. Got theories about the origins of HPV being caused by birth control research but it's already done, I'd just take it as a sign to be celibate. That may be what actually cures it--but not as a cure and then going back to having sex because I dont think it works that way. I've never had syphilis for example and have had my blood tested and no diseases in it they said perfect blood, but as I've been celiba. te longer it seems like I start to process disease I may have died from in a past life--(it's probably too weird of a concept but) I kind of get different tastes in my mouth out of the blue and I intuit it's what these diseases -taste- like. Yuk, right? Well just giving you an idea of what you might expect going up the staircase. Dont lose hope I believe any disease can be cured with faith and high ethics (I hope so at least, I want everyone to live forever)
OK Your going to be just fine.Be honest talk to you wife about it.You dont say but is it possible your wife has developed a condition due to this.Did your wife ever have any one before you .If so you dont know for sure you have given this to her, it could of been one of them.Theres several different strains and I personally know several women who have had it.If you did give it to her do you think she will stop loving you?You/she could of had it for a long time and not know it.I know one girl who had when she was fifteen got treated.Stopped having sex for a year and now she is thirty and has had the same partner for five years she has no symtoms at all.Its like she never had it.Your wife may get better,so dont lose hope.Best wishes
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