plz help me, i hate admitting i need help, but.?
i'm very unhappy with my life and the way things are going, i don't seem to be strong enough to get out of my endless rutt, i got into another fight last night, it's not the first and i woke up in so much pain, yet again, i have no self confidence, i drink too much just to forget everything and im really bored with my life and who i am. is there ne thing i can do to get my life in control? i already see a counsellor. i want to be independant and free, i don't want to depend on anything.
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it depends on what you need to change may try chagning you job first do something that will challenge you. try to stop drinking completely no more alcohol at all. if you need more self confidence stand in front of the mirror every morning and remind yourself that you a worth it and you are what matters because you do matter! next you might want to make a list of what you would like to change and how you could change it for the better! good luck!
Well just do what you feel is right. I would pray
I wish I had the answer for you and you sound so sad. Just realize that there are people out there for you but you know what girl?.....life just doesn't change all by itself. YOU have to be the one to make the change...if you really want it. Give it a try
Fisrt and foremost, stop drinking!! Alcohol is a depressant!!
If u really want to help urself, u must push urself some,,,do some exercise even tho u might not be motivated to do it. It has some of the same benefits as medication.And try to change ur stinkin' thinkin'. thats where most of our problems begin.
seeing a councellor is the first step, and slowly they will help you, but you have to have the will-power to say no to the drinking, its your mind that says you need it, get some work, an if u cant find yourself a hobby, this happened to me to mate, so i no how you feel, and i thank u for comming forward to ask us for help, talk to your family, im sure they will help u out, but u need support to get through this, its hard to do it alone
Well, make sure you take your counslers advice, first thing. Then, if you know these are bad things, don't do them! I know its not as simple as that, but take it into consideration. Also, you said that you got in a fight. Well maybe you have anger or something built up inside. Try doing things that are relaxing. Also, if you are still in school, keep that as a priority. Staying in school will help you along the road later, and you'll regret not taking it seriously. Taking up a sport is another way to keep your mind off things and relieve stess. If you are older, try swimming or tennis or something. Hope this helps!
try not to drink so much. maybe start a journal and write about all the stuff thats bothering you to let out all your anger. then the next days go back to it and try to resolve it like it was another persons problem. Maybe staying away from the person that you have been having a fight with for a little while might help. Usually when i feel this way i go on a vacation by myself just to think about my problems; have fun and relax. And for finding your self confidence and being who you really are.. maybe you haven't dug deep enough to know who you trully are
no one is completely independent and free. everyone has some type of responsibility, even if it's just to themselves. if you are unhappy you need to find out what is making you unhappy, and if it's something you can change in a positive way, work towards changing it. if you are unhappy with yourself, for some reason, find new interests, take a class, something to learn about yourself and grow as a person. you will like yourself better when you see you are learning and doing something that interests you, and liking yourself better can greatly improve other "unhappys". don't drink to forget, it is unhealthy and starts a bad cycle. when i need to escape, I write or watch a movie. much healthier, and who knows you might end up with a book of soulful poetry that gets published one day. good luck!
You see a counselor, but what about AA? Have you prayed?
If boredom is an issue, find a healthy hobby. I take karate! I love it! Does something possibly trigger your drinking? If so, a key is to recognize when those triggers go off and find another way to deal with the issue.
FOCK IT MAN NO ONE CAN HELP YOU! YOU CAN BE COUNCILED TILL IT COMES OUT YOUR EARS BUT IT IS UP TO YOU SUCK IT UP AND DO IT!!
You need to find a turning point. Something different, that gets you excited about living again. Even if it means packing up and moving. Get a new start on life. If the drinking has become a big problem, then try AA. That is what it's there for, to help you start over. You have to learn to love yourself as well, when you figure this out . Your confidence will come shortly after. Whatever your doing now isnt working, so try new things. Instead of going out drinking and fighting. Find a hobby, something you enjoy. If anger is a problem take a self defense class, or join a gym where you can get the frustration out. Eventually it will get better, slowly but surely. Good Luck
You are telling us a lot about what goes on inside yourself, but very little or nothing about your external environment. What exactly is going on in your life, that you are unhappy about? Who did you get into a fight with? Was it a man or a woman? Was it a stranger or somebody you know?
What do you want to be independent and free of? Is it a drug problem? An addiction to something? Tell us more. People who would otherwise be willing to help you, need to know.
stop drinking my uncle had a problem but it was with drugs if this will help maybe you should look for a new job and maybe a new boyfriend that will support you in your life i wish the best for you and good luck.
I see that there are a lot of things going on with you. First of all, you are drinking (and doing drugs?) as a way to cover up or mask some things in your life. You say that you want to forget everything and that leads me to believe that you have had some major, if not traumatic, things happen to you in your life.
You also said that you want to be free and not emotionally attached. This is not a healthy way to exist and indicates to me that you are having a lot of relationship issues - from your family possibly as well as others.
You say that you are going to a counselor and I am wondering if you are addressing these issues? I hope that the counselor that you have is one that you feel comfortable disclosing these issues to so that you can address them. If you do not feel comfortable, maybe a counselor change is in order.
Also, maybe you need to see your family physician and make sure that you are not having any underlying medical issues that could mimic your depressive feelings. Also a psychiatrist could help you with some medication that will elevate your mood and help you to not become so angry and violent.
You can be happy, but if you want to be in control of your life, you need to take control of your happiness by doing what is necessary to make yourself feel better.
Take care.
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