If nobody would even care if you killed yourself..how would it be a selfish act?

I mean I'm depressed and have been on and off suicidal. The reasoning agianst it is always "Think about your family and friends" but what if you don't have any? I have lost all my friends and I know that they would never even finds out if I did.

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I never tell people suicide is a selfish act. I don't believe in guilt-tripping people into feeling better. Feeling guilty about feeling bad can only make people feel worse. I also don't think it even is necessarily selfish. A lot of people who kill themselves think the world would be better off without them. They're wrong, but they're not acting out of selfish motives.

When people are depressed, one of the things that they do is inadvertently isolate themselves from friends and family. But that doesn't mean that people stop caring about you. If you have any relatives still living, they're going to care about you no matter what. Beyond that, even people you don't think of as close friends, anyone who knows you, even just to say hi, would be effected if you died. People don't like to see people around them suffering, and when someone kills themselves, everyone who knew them feels like they should have seen it coming, should have helped, should have stopped it.

Depression is an illness. It can be treated with medication and therapy. It can't always be "cured," but it can always be treated. When people kill themselves, they're effectively dying of depression, just like people die of other diseases. Think of it just like fighting any other disease. When you have the flu, you don't give up on life just because sucks for a while, because eventually you'll get better, and life will be worth living again. Cancer patients don't give up because the chemo makes them too sick to do anything, because eventually they _might_ get better and enjoy life again. You shouldn't give up just because life seems unbearable now because you'll be missing out on all the fun you can have once your depression is under control. And that analogy made a lot more sense before I wrote that last sentence, but hopefully it still works.

If you really feel that bad that life doesn't seem worth living, then you're probably not scared of dying. So make the most of it and take up some extreme sport that most people are too scared to do. Learn to sky dive, bungee jump, drive a race car, or something similarly hair-brained. One of those has got to be fun, and who knows, maybe the adrenaline rush will even cheer you up a bit.

it is still selfish because one is not supposed to take their own life.
I dont have a supportive family or friends, and so I have rationalized the same thoughts as you on this, but ultimately, I just dont want to die yet, especially when there are so many people that i know with cancer that are fighting to live.
Good luck to you in your decision.
Nothing is ever so bad as it seems. I know that is a tired cliche but it is true. I have been in your shoes and when you are that depressed, you do not think clearly. Things will seem worse than they really are. Go to a doctor or call a hot line but don't kill yourself becouse things seem bad now. Everyone has rough patches. Remember "this too shall pass".
People are saying that because they just wanna give u another reason to feel guilty, but I don't want u 2 take ur own life away.
Please go to a doctor. Nobody deserves to feel like they should be dead. The mind is very complex, and chemical imbalances are real. Like when you have the flu and take medicines to help, there are medicines that will help the mind. Good luck to you, and please don't give up. Life awaits you!
Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

Whatever is going on it your life, it's not worth killing yourself over.
It would be selfish in the sense that you would be depriving yourself of life. In addition you would be depriving people, who haven't yet had the opportunity, to meet you.

If you look you will find yourself.

I was suicidal as a teenager and I currently suffer from OCD. However once I realized that it doesn't matter what friends or (in my case) family think of you..the main thing is that you don't let them get you down.

I was often told I was no good, stupid and bad and that really got me down. However I made the decision to get away from that environment, and now work as a nursing assistant. People who I meet now tell me that I am a good person, and patients often thank me for giving them that extra little time. I am told that I am easy to talk to, and confide in.

Had I killed myself as a teenager, it would have been selfish in the sense that I would be depriving the people whom I know and love now (including my fiance) of getting a chance to meet and know me.

Try to think of it that way. Focus on yourself, and set up small goals that will help you get away from what is making you depressed. If you believe your depression is caused by a chemical imbalance (as is my OCD), get yourself to a doctor. If the first doctor doesn't listen to you, go see a second, a third etc.

Good Luck
God gave you life. Don't destroy what He gave you. You are His child. It would matter to Him. I can hardly believe that you don't have any friends. Do you have family, you did not mention them? Instead of wanting to leave this earth, make your stay improve. Change your way of thinking, if this means therapy, get some.
I have been there. I have a place in my heart for people who suffer from suicidal thoughts. I know how low you get, and how nothing else matters but what you want to do. But, it won't solve anything. We don't know what lies ahead for us if we kill ourselves, we don't know.
Have you ever been in DBT Therapy? If not, you should find out about it in your community. If you want to know more about it, IM me.
There is a way for you to fight and sustain those suicidal thoughts, and make your life worthy of living. I don't care how depressed you are, you CAN be healed from this.
DBT helps you to obtain the skills you need to get thru a crisis. One crisis is suicidal thoughts. Another is something that happens, you don't feel you can handle it, so you get upset and get yourself caught in a bundle of bad emotions.
I am just giving you what works for me. You must choose to improve your life.
Whether you believe it or not, there is a divine plan for you. If you thwart that plan, you do the ONE thing you cannot do. And the consequences are dire. I'm not talking about hell, because I don't believe in it. But I do believe that of all the heinous things in life that man can do, this is the biggy. I'll take this one step further, take it or leave it: We live many times, not just this one lifetime. The reason you're in this situation, is you killed yourself in a previous life(s). You must break the pattern or each time you come back is worse than the time before. Forget thinking about family and friends - think about yourself. There's something you're supposed to accomplish and learn in this lifetime -- try focusing on that. And one more thing: Try seeing yourself as Christ sees you, with absolute, complete love. I wish you the very best.
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