I don't want any relationships for the rest of my life and I tell people that. Is that normal??
I'm almost 40. I've been married, divorced, had kids. I'm done. No more. It's all about me, no one else.
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It is your choise,why can't this be normal?You are probaply hurt by your past relationships or you are just bored! I suggest not to puss yourself having a relationship,someday you maybe feel that you need one.If not,what is your problem?You have your family already!Beside that do what makes you feel ok and happy,so if you don't want a relationship, it's ok!
You could just be going through a phase. I'f you want this, go with it, but don't let yourself think anything is written in stone.
Explain to them that you are an A-sexual person that doesn't require the relationships that everyone else does.
It isn't normal to seek out so much attention, whether it is negative or not.
It's still about your children, for you still have them don't you?
If you want to be honest about not wanting to date someone, fine.. but it isn't necessary to make an issue out of it.
First of all, 'normal' is a setting on a washing machine, not a label for human beings.
Second, you are fine as you are. Obviously, not having 'relationships' at the moment is working for you, so no need to worry.
Sounds like you have been very hurt and are now very jaded.
And yeah, sadly, it is too normal in our society.
Your okay, I feel the same way and never been married, no kids and I'm only 30. Its time to have fun, kick it and enjoy life, its too short anyway!!
It's uncommon for a person to not want any relationships of any kind for the rest of their life.
However, I don't think I am qualified to tell you whether or not it is "normal" or "abnormal".
As for "it's all about me, no one else", well, it sure seems like a lot of people live that way already. Whether they realize that or not is another thing.
Just my two cents :)
If you are almost 40, why do you feel you must tell anyone anything. You feel the way you do. I have a feeling you will change your tune in a few years but you don't owe anyone an explanation.
I think the bigger question is if you are almost 40 why is your avatar a 17 year old boy with green hair?
You might need to convince them with some sort of explaination if you are in single bars when you say it.
Otherwise, you could just be feeling content with your life and want to try new things.
If you get bored catering to yourself, you might try getting involved with a charity of some sort..even if it's one you create out of a need you see around you. Anything is better than thinking about yourself all the time.
I hear ya! I don't know if it's normal, but I think it's quite common. If I say something similar, people always come back with "never say never". So I've stopped saying "never again" (but I still feel that way).
People can only take so much pain. I understand what "enough is enough" means. There's nothing wrong with the way you are feeling right now and even if you feel that way forever more--you, above all others know what is best for you. But you never know, one of these days in the near or distant future, you may not look for it, but you will find love again.
That's ok to me. It seems you have quite a life story and have just gotten to the point where you have had enough. Maybe possibly someday you'll feel differently, but that is ok you feel that way now. You are being honest with yourself and to other, and that's fine.
Just keep a little bit of hope in your heart though, don't give up completely. You never know.
"for the rest of my life"
For the rest of your life?
How can you know that-why not take it one day at a time.
Think about it-weren't there things you believed twenty years ago that you might have thought would be for the rest of your life and have now shifted?
If it is how you feel NOW, then YES, by all means be honest and let people know. Being honest is the kindest thing you can do. But life is unpredictable-so, "rest of my life" is uncertain.
normal is different for each of us, i think it's all about what you want and what is going to make you happy!! I say you are perfectly normal!
Its all about you? What about being apart of your kids lives? Aren't they atleast a little bit important to you? I sure hope so. because I think thats whats wrong with the world today, us women have to carry the load for all our children alone... I've been raising my 4 kids alone, off & on, for 20 years!! And I still carry even my grand kids stresses... And I'm only 43.. But, I'm like you about not wanting to be with anyone again.. I've been married three times,and with one man off & on for 18 years!! He cured me of ever wanting to date anyone again. Thats how abusive he was!! And he was so "Obsessed" with my every move, and you couldn't find a "More Faithful" woman,, than me, and because "Drugs" got ahold of his thinking, he became so mean, and so "Controlling", and just pschotic, to me !! I begged him over & over to quit the drugs, that it was ruining our relationship!! And he never did, and I finally had to devorce him almost three years ago!! Broke my heart.. But, he'll never be the same again, drugs ruined anything that was good about him...And he used to be a smart man.. Even-Tempered, and just gradually became a "Monster" to me & the kids, and I never saw it coming for years, I just thought it was me, because he use to always blaim me for everything, because of the drugs making him mean, and he could run around and do anything he wanted when he wanted alone, without us, as a family. While I had to stay home, day after day, year after year.. Until it got to where I couldn't even go shopping anymore without him, asking me "So how many phone numbers did you get?" when alls I wanted to do was "Rush home" so he wouldn't do that to me!! Until I got to where I let him do all the shopping, run all the errands, anything to keep "Peace!" It got that bad, that I literally felt like I was a "Prisoner" to my own home, for the sake of "Peace".. So, no I dont think its so bad to stay "Single"..Relationships take alot of work, and if the other isn't being "Fair" and abusive, verbally or physically, none of it is worth that !! I always seem to do better "Financially" by myself, and Emotionally ...Sure, I get lonely... But, I get passed it.. I have to, and thinking about my ex-husband, helps me, to get passed it, you know... So, be happy, and dont let people dictate what you know is Best for you!! Smile!
I don't blame you for feeling this. You have lost some trust. Sometimes it just takes time to build it back. Answers (ie.. maybe someone to love) usually comes when people are not looking anyhow. I think you attitude is okay. Just don't let it effect the rest of you life and your other family and friend relationships.
You are fine -- Had a tough life, a bad marriage, with a divorce -- the ex still bothers you, etc etc etc -- That is enough for anyone -- and I APPLAUD you for wanting to be ALONE for a while -- and recognizing the need!
Hello dear!
You must be either kidding or disappointed by something!
Come on! Cheer up! You are starting your life, if you feel like starting it again! If you want to get deep in your misery, this is possible again!
BUT: you are young and should look to life straight in the eye! Do not live pessimistically, you have much more years to live than you have lived as yet! (Of course this if you avoid stress, don't smoke, and hunt happiness every moment!)
Could be right but time will tell.
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