Any tricks to eliminate my over self consciousness or build real character?
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Hi, when you're feeling self-councious you could say you're being "interesting" as you are being your own center of attention.
If you are an actor on stage, you are interesting while acting. Seminar speakers are interesting. Comedians, models and magicians are interesting.
Yet in real life, on a one-on-one basis, interesting people are irritating. They only do things to get your attention and admiration. They believe they are on stage acting for an audience of one.
If you want people to cooperate with you, to like you or to open up to you, you must be interested.
Instead of focusing on yourself, you start to focus on others. You notice what makes them happy or unhappy. Your attention comes off of you and onto others.
Five Ways to Be More Interested:
1. Strive to shift your attention from yourself onto other people or objects. This is a great stress reliever.
2. Find things about people that interest you. Force yourself to look for interesting things. Soon you will automatically take interest in people without thinking about it.
3. If you catch yourself acting like someone else, you are being interesting. Simply get interested in the person in front of you and you’ll feel more natural. You are most effective when you are simply being yourself.
4. When someone makes you nervous or shy, get interested in them. Take your attention off of yourself and on to others. With practice, you will be calm, even bold.
5. Focus on how you can help others. Let your interest in helping people replace your tendency to act interesting. Your effectiveness and popularity will soar.
Yes, surround yourself with people who will inspire and motivate you, not demean or demote you as a person.
Study etiquette. It will give you more confidence to know that you can understand and follow the accepted rules of social behavior. Once you know this well enough you will feel more comfortable in any social situation.
There is no shame in being polite.
WK
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