Afraid to show that I care? problems expressing myself sexually and emotionally?

I have never been raped or molested nor had bad expereiences with men but I can't keep boyfriends because I have problems showing affections. I am afraid and I think too much before I dare to touch a guy or stand close to him. When he touches me or sits close to me, I want to sit closer and remain there but I flinch. I love them I don't feel uncomforable around them it's jjust a problem with myself.

I can't show that I care too. My first reaction to anything is to withhold my smile or care. I can't break free of myself. There is something holding me back

Answers:
I think what you are lacking is self confidence. You need to give yourself a break. If these guys are with you, they are with you because they care for you and see that you are a good person. Sometimes it takes a while to be fully comfortable with someone anyway, because you are nervous and don't want to say anything that may affect how the person feels about you, and you over analyse every little thing. I think that you need to relax a bit, and do something to feel better about yourself. If your self-esteem is no good either, join a gym, or buy some nice clothes or get your hair done or something. But as for the confidence, join a group or do a public speaking course or something...
in u have to give time to urself and u should try to understand why this is happening wid u !!
Has someone close to you been hurt and this fear is from what you have seen with them? Somewhere there is a reason for this type of fear the question is are you willing to really look at it and try to over come it. You can do that and you can learn to trust as that is what this sounds like. any relationship is built on trust and if your afraid there is no trust.

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