I think my husband is trying to make me go crazy?

He had a fling a few weeks ago and now I have twice found that her number has been rung from our home phone but he totally denies it, says the phone is malfunctioning. Also I was having trouble logging onto the internet but when he tried it was fine, when he was out I realised he had unplugged the modem, so I plugged it in and the computor connected, I left it unplugged before he came home, and this morning said I was having trouble again. He connected ok and I checked, and the modem was plugged in again. He denied this too and said I was going crazy. Is there a condition which would make him do this? Has he had a breakdown? Please help.

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well at the risk of getting negative votes I would say to try and stick it out.
You married this guy and its not just a casual relationship, so there must have been something there once.
He is acting very negatively, but that doesn't mean that it can't be resolved. Maybe he's having stress at work, with his buddies, or maybe even with you (hopefully not though.)

The reason why he went to someone else (I would guess) is basically because he might think he can't tell you his problems.

So, being really loving and extra patient/forgiving might be a good option. If it's his first time he's doing this, if you handle it well enough he will hopefully realise his mistakes and with a lot of work you might be able to sort out the issues that you both have.

Maybe you were right and he's had some form of breakdown. just try to resolve it rather than running away from it and dumping him.

He's trying to control you.
Divorce him and get the hell away from him.
You deserve so much better!
His hidding something from you.
He just seems pissed at you. Perhaps that first answer is better advice than some may think.
It sounds like you need to leave this guy .
Yeah, He is more into this other chic than you think.
He is lying and your relationship, such as it is, is over. There is no condition per se, just a pathological cowardice and lack of respect on the part of your husband.
He's just trying to make it so you can't find out what he's been looking at or who he's been talking to online. The man's condition is called being a cheating bastard and you should kick him to the curb.
Guilt! My husband did similar things - even though he was having an affair, he used to sit outside our block of flats and accuse me of having affairs with the poor innocent men who went in and out!
You know he's trying to drive you mad. Get cynical. He's continuing the relationship behind your back and he's trying (not very well!) not to get caught. It happens so often - you get accused of paranoia, when actually, he's a lying sod.
hun get him to see the doctor.
he may and i mean may have had a breakdown.
talk to him see what he says.
goodluck i hope he hasnt had a breakdown.
if he has not then he lieing and u need to leave babe.
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you need to dump this loser. he is trying pathetically to cover his tracks and make you feel insecure. get on with getting over him! you really shouldn't waste anymore time or romantic energy on him. good luck!
obssesive compulsive, divorce the bugger
Get out and take control of yourself and your life and Good luck.
time to think about dumping him he is for sure on the shade. Becareful he sounds like a sh*tbag to me
A lot of guilty guys do this..he hasn't had any breakdown..he is just guilty as heck and trying to 'play' you.many men use the old, 'you're the one who is crazy ' bit to cover their actions. because he wants his cake and eat it too..you make sure you let him know you are on to him.and tell him you are crazy like a fox..and that you might be going to see an attorney soon, not a shrink.poor baby
find out the fuk is going on then hire someone to kill him like myself
I'm sorry, but how much of a sucker are you? So your phone dials out all by itself does it? You really believe that.?

Look, he's been caught playing away from home, and he's still doing it although trying to cover his tracks now..

No, you're not crazy other than for swallowing the cr@p he is feeding you. The condition he has got for doing this stuff is called. lying, cheating b@stard, a common condition amongst men.
Boil a bunny or something else
He is fooling around with another woman. Maybe there is something on the computer that he doesn't want you to see. Don't put up with it.
Your husband is playing you for a fool and an idiot. YOU are letting him. Toughen up and leave him.
well if he cheated on you, why on earth are you still with this loser? if he is playing games with your head and then in turn lying about it, is he really worth the pain and suffering he is putting you through? phones don't malfunction and just dial up someone. you aren't that dumb or gullible to believe that. i vote for leaving his sorry a** and find someone who has more respect for you than that loser!
Just play dumb. Give him time he will come back to you. Don't act violence and stay calm. Continue to be a good wife so long as he brings in money to support his family and treat you well. Then no point making a big fuss out of it.
been there wrote the book etc.. he trying to cover his tracks i friggin hate it when men want there cake and to eat it hes just trying to be clever and as a woman always be one step ahead of a man like you are doing. hes cheating hun so ring her number and confront her but then shes gonna cover for him and deny everything too so think of another action plan you aint going crazy its him playing with your mind so take control of the situation and get answers you deserve
ya, and they say women are manipulative. my husband likes to use the old submissive/agressive on me. he, too ,has tried to say i'm crazy..the thing is i'm smarter then him so i'm not so easily messed up.
i say you call his bluff. tell him your on to him and if he keeps playing with the computer...you'll rip the damn thing out of the wall and make him have to conduct his flings else where.
by the way, he hasn't had a breakdown..he's just been caught out. he's doing what all men do when caught with their pants down.trying to turn it on the wife to relieve his guilt.
don't let him use your naivity to his advantage..you must depend on him a lot to feel this way, though. educate your self and you will not be so pushed down by his crap. it's your computer, too.and your life.put your foot down and TELL him who's boss!
Just sleep with his best friend - that should shu him up
Sorry to say this but many of us have been there, done that! He is still cheating on you - and doing this because he doesn't want to leave you yet. He wants to have his cake and eat it too!! You will realize this only when you are ready to do something about it. Until then, YOU ARE NOT CRAZY! You need to face the facts soon though or you will be!!
sounds like invisable thought provoking.. check for spy cameras around you.. maybe get a spy for yourself on him. dont be a sucker in bed. wat a pig. if i was there i would smash him. tie him up throw him to the crocs. dump the cheater.. watever dont let him control you. go get yourself new dream man
He hasn't had a breakdown love, he's cheating on you! Men who cheat come up with the most stupid excuses and things they say and of course he will never admit to any of it. After all he's scared of getting found out again!!
I'm afraid if you man is lying to you this much (and he IS lying, you are NOT CRAZY) then your relationship is probably over.
Horrible to say but true. Confront him, stand your ground and tell him to get out.

If you don't do this then it WILL drive you crazy and he will still leave in the long run.

Be true to yourself and dont take his lies..
You have physical evidence that her number was dialled from your home, you are not crazy but your sh*t of a husband clearly is. I would phone the girls number myself and try to have a chat with her - no anger though, see where it led. The only thing malfunctioning is your husbands mind. You say he had an affair just a few weeks ago, how did you find out and why are you staying? He is totally trying to manipulate and control you. Not to mention drive you crazy. Have you any close family or friends you can confide in about all of this? Get some support and either get out or get him to admit all the things he has been doing. Good luck and try to keep an note with dates/times that these things are happening in case you need to refer back to them at a later date. Keep a copy of the phone bill also. What a terrible situation, I hope it works out for you.
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