Question about shy men...?
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I'm kind of shy, used to be a lot more but one day decided I didn't want to be shy anymore. It's not that I'm not the same guy, I just don't let it stop me as much. What goes through my mind when I see an attractive girl, even one I already know, that I want to ask out is that I can't compete with other guys. I walk into a bar and I see guys who I view as more attractive than me and I immediately put them above me on the list of potential suitors. In my experience, most shy guys aren't sure of themselves and dismiss any compliments people give them as "Just being nice". You prefer shy guys so kudos to you for not falling for the "bad boy" who I prefer to label as "jerkass". If a shy guy wont approach you then you have to approach him. If he is still unresponsive then just be direct, say, "I am interested in you and I would like to know your feelings on that", feel free to ad lib. Don't corner the guy and force him to answer though, you want to be in a situation where the guy has been comfortable before as he is going to be more relaxed and it'll be easier for him to give you honest feedback. If you regularly exchange e-mails then do it through an e-mail, if you go to the bar and hang out after work, then do it there. I would say its much more important to talk in a casual manner so that he can answer with comfort, because a shy guy can clam up real quick. If you are direct and he still ignores the issue then you should just try and move on because hes going to be the exact same even if you're in a relationship and thats not easy to deal with. Hope these ramblings help.
well, im not a guy but ive gone through this so many times..the guy is shy because they dont want u 2 stop liking them if they do something that you dont like.thats what my guy friend told me.
Maybe they're just using the "shy" thing as an excuse because they didn't like you enough to ask you out, or go out with you.
It's ok for a guy to be shy but if their not responding even when you make the first move and ask them out? I'd say they have issues beyond their shyness. Try some heavy flirting with them. Shy guys like to be reconized
Guys are just as nervous as us girls about asking people out, being rejected and so on. When you meet someone like this, then you may have to make the first move.
Hi , MJ here , guess what, i'm one of those guys that you're describing , and still single at the age of 26 ! To the best of my knowledge , and what i have experienced , i would say that those guys are afraid of rejection , as am I . They feel that by being rejected by one girl , means that no other girl will ever accept them . And as a result , they are too scared too even try and go out with the girl involved. Don't know if this answers your question , but it's what i think ! :-)
I've always been particularly shy around girls I'm fond of. Before I was involved with my present relationship, I could barely talk to her. In fact, I had to draw up all my courage to even say things like, "Good night" or wish her a good day.
I think this stems from a guy being to worried about making mistakes. Or more directly, the guy may be really worried about what she may think, especially if he knows that she has strong opinions towards one thing or another. From this you may find that guys can better express themselves in writing: notes, emails, etc. That way it may be easiest to screen what they say and fine tune it.
Furthermore, the actual act of interfacing with a girl may lead some guys to act out of character, mispronouncing words or talking out of turn. This again leads one to being shy.
Ultimately, I think it's out of desire to be something special to a girl, therefore worrying over themselves and how they're regarded by her.
For me personally it was years of pychological abuse by other males that made me doubt myself. So I guess its self doubt and self confidence.
Shy guys have better sex drives..
I suppose a lot of shy men are hesitant to ask girls out because they are afraid of being rejected. Some shy men also suffer from feelings of inadequacy, which may explain why they are often afraid to respond to girls who ask them out.
They are afraid of possibly saying or doing something wrong or stupid and looking like a fool.
sometimes, guys are shy because they are afraid to be wronged or to commit mistakes.
I used to be shy and it was sort of like this. I just basically thought that she didn't like me and didn't want or didn't know how to make the first move.
Shy men tend to have low self-esteem issues stemming from their own childhood experiences. They are afraid to say anything for fear of being made fun of, saying the wrong thing at the wrong time, or making a bad first impression and ultimately ruining any future chances at a relationship with an attractive female.
The key is making them feel comfortable when conversing. Helping them feel good about themselves will better the chances of having a more meaningful relationship with them. Try to get them to express themselves and get them to become more outward directed instead of inward.
I'm definitely not the shy type. I just asked out a nurse from a large hospital whom I haven't seen since college. Ten years ago. I was thinking of her for a year now since the time I found out she works at the hospital. A month ago, I got the guts to talk to the hospital and ask her to call me. She e-mailed me last week and I asked her out yesterday !!
Very common for Men to be Shy.
Its on girls if she also like the guy to be open and go out.
That is why men and women are ..to compliment.
The fear of rejection.
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