someone i know has cancer, what can i say to help?



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If they don't have family living with them, go over and do a load of laundry or pick up groceries or mop a floor. One of the hardest things for me when I had cancer was to keep going every day. I would do a little bit and then poop out. On a good day I could make it to the grocery store with help. My boys had to do the laundry and thank goodness we have a house cleaning service, not to even think of meals for my family.

you can tell them that they will get through it and you'll be with them through it all. Also try not to act like they are helpless, this could make them feel worse.
I had Cancer. The only thing you can do is to let the person know that you will be there for them and mean it. Support is the most important thing.
I will be here for you if you need anything, even if it means waking up at 3 in the morning to make you something to eat. Basically say something that comes fromthe heart, that will make her feel that she can count on you during her hardships.
By being silently around, and listening more than offering consoling words can work wonders too.
Get them a copy of Patrick Quillen's Beating Cancer with Nutrition. It is a goldmine of info on how to deal with the disease.
Both of my parents (age 57) had cancer. My dad died last year of the "cure" to Hodgkin's Lymphoma. My mom was diagnosed with breast cancer 2 months after his death. All of the answers people gave are great! It was especially hard for her to fight the cancer while still so freshly mourning my dad's death. My mom recently finished her treatment (chemo & radiation) & she has said often that one of the things that helped her most was reading the message I wrote on her refrigerator (so she could read it often). It stated, "Remember.one day at a time".
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My partner was just diagnosed with lung cancer in may. She's only 43. It is so hard to find the right words for anyone who has been diagnosed with cancer, but love and support is the best medicine. Know that he/she is going to be very angry, scared, anxious and any other emotion you can imagine. Be there to listen, lend an ear and don't be hurt if this person lashes out at you. It's not you they are mad at.. it's the cancer. Be supportive and remember that whatever he/she decides in regards to treatment is his/her decision. It's a tough road but your friend will need your love and support now more than ever!! Good luck!!
PLEASE DONT SAY
" WELL IM HERE FOR YOU IF YOU NEED ME"

DO MORE AS A FRIEND.REALLY BE THERE!
SHOW UP TO APPOINTMENTS WITH THEM, READ ABOUT CANCER TO LEARN MORE, TALK ABOUT TREATMENTS WITH THEM.
DON'T JUST SIT THERE AND LISTEN GET INVOLVED!!
Read my testimonials on cancer and info on my page and share this with the family.
Just let them know you are there for them and don't avoid them like you'll catch cancer from them or because you don't know what to say to them. Saying "I'm sorry to here the news, what can I do to help?" Emphasize to them that you really mean it because many people have trouble asking for help. (Myself included!) If they have young kids offering to babysit would be a welcome relief. Also cooking meals that they can freeze and just heat up would be great. Also rides to and from doctor and chemo or radiation appointments.
U will get well.
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