advice pleeeassee?

My ex gave me an std.unintentionally, but in a way he did ruin my life.I still love him but I have soo much anger inside about it.Its been over a yr since I found out but..I hold a grudge on him, I think i alway will.Is this wrong?? any advice?

Answers:
You can't really blame him if he didn't know. The test is supposed to come BEFORE the unprotected sex. Let it go.
Holding on to a grudge will only keep you from moving on with your life. I'm guessing he left you with herpes. More people have it than you'd ever thing. Just remember that you have a responsibility to tell any future sexual partners about your status before you have sex with them. Good luck!

How did HE get it? Was he cheating?
I still hate my ex-husband for giving me HPV. If your ex didn't know he had an std and wasn't cheating then you should forgive him.
well, let me answer you in detail:

1. if he knew about it before then he should have used protection or he should have warned you and you could protect yourself. in that case i will say YES you have every reason to be angry. but he himself didnt know about it i think he is equally upset about it as you are..

2. holding a grudge and holding on to a relationship cannot go side by side. or it should not. if you feel cheated dont continue this relationship..if he has done it once he will most probable do it again.tell his and your friends about it, in order to prevent (to the best of your abilites) his ruining someone else's life..most importantly, try to get yourself the best medication available.. dont hide your STD's .. plz see a doctor who can help you.

3. last but not the least. love can perform wonders as you have written you still love the man who has ruined your health and life. if you think he is THE man for u hold on to him and let go the grudge.. he might also be suffering for you.
you'll always have a certain amount of anger inside.
advice my mother gave me was Serenity Prayer:
grant me the serenity to accept what i can't change,
the courage to change what i can,
and the ability to know the difference.
good luck
and remember your grudge is only hurting yourself.
inner peace is most important in life
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